Stop and smell the roses…


I know what you are thinking… You start a blog and then you never post anything?! I know I have not posted a blog in forever and I apologize. Besides the excuse of life taking over, I just have not felt the urge to write. I have not made the time to sit down and write. That is my excuse, as lame as it may be, it is the truth. For the past few months I have been wrapped up in everything but my blog, I have not taken the time to stop and smell the roses. When I started this blog, I wanted it to be an outlet where I could express myself, experiment with my creative side and just let whatever was on my mind flow. Unfortunately, lately I have let other things consume me and put something that is important to me on the back burner. I hate that I have not made time to write.

We all have responsibilities, jobs, families, animals and other things that demand our attention. Life in general is messy. We get lost in our jobs, in our kid’s lives, we worry about keeping up with the others, making time for friends, family, and loved ones rather than just slowing down and enjoying the moment.

My husband (yes, I said husband, more on that in a later post) and I went on a short vacation to Mexico a few months ago. We needed this vacation. It was a time to recharge our batteries, to reconnect with each other and with ourselves. It had been forever since I had picked up a book or a magazine to read. I needed to reconnect but most of all I needed to SLOW DOWN. I will admit, I worry, ok I worry a lot. My mind is constantly going a mile a minute thinking about everything. Whether it is about work, the kids, something with my friends, my family, my husband (there is that word again), the dogs, I worry about it all. This wonderful trait was passed down from my Mother who bless her heart worries more than anyone I know. I despise worrying but I admit it is hard for me to stop. It is hard for me to slow down, and calm my mind. It took leaving the country to find a little peace. While vacations are nice you cannot escape life, you have to face day-to-day realities and deal with all life throws your way. Which sometimes can be a lot.

How do people do it all? I look at these women on social media who have amazing jobs, kids, a fantastic social life, a kick ass wardrobe, workout dedication, perfect kids, an adoring husband and girlfriends who are always up for a glass of wine. Is this real life? No, it is social media. Comparing yourself to what you see on social media can make you feel inadequate or that you are not enough, which is not healthy. I do think you can have it all, it’s called balance and priorities. You have to make time for the things that really matter to you. Reconnect with that old friend, make time to get out and exercise, go see your parents, plan a trip with your family, take the dogs on a walk. All these things are possible if we just slow down, remind ourselves that everything will work out, and thank God for another day. Life is messy and that is ok. I am working on taking each day as it comes; reminding myself to stop and smell the roses, to be grateful for all I have, even the chaos! And, even in the chaos, I am making a promise to blog more. I have so much I want to share with all of you. Coming up next on the blog…OUR WEDDING! Cheers!



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Tara Lynn Harms is a lifestyle blogger from Iowa. Tara Lynn created her blog as a way to share her personal story about life after 40 and all the adventures that come a long with it. Her blog is a mixed bag of posts about her blended family, lifestyle, fashion, beauty, fitness and healthy living, travel and everyday life. She recently was married to her husband Brody and gained two beautiful stepdaughters. She is the proud owner of two English Bulldogs. Follow along with her as she documents her life after 40. Feel free to contact her with any questions or collaborations.

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