Welcome back to Tuesday’s with Tara Lynn. This week’s blog post is dedicated to my wonderful husband, Brody. If you have been following along with me since I started this blog, you know that Brody and I met on Match.com. This past Friday on March 9th, was our two-year anniversary of meeting on there. Crazy how time flies! Since I have many new followers, I thought I would share the story of how we met and how we owe it all to Match.com.
Both Brody and I had recently come out of previous relationships. He was married and I had been in a serious relationship for many years. At our age, trying to find people to date was not an easy task. We were not into the bar scene, so you were either lucky to be introduced to someone by a friend or you relied on online dating. I had been on Match.com for a while, plus several other dating sites. I met some nice people but no one that I felt I had made a connection with.
A few weeks prior to meeting Brody on Match, I was at the salon getting my hair done. Since my hair stylist was very well connected in the community I would always ask her if she knew of any good single guys, she could introduce me too. This time she actually said she did have someone in mind for me. She told me that the guy who use to be her personal trainer had recently gone through a divorce. He had two daughters and was one of the nicest guys she had ever met. She was not sure if he was ready to date yet, but she said that she would try to set up a fun happy hour with her and her husband and the two of us. She was leaving on vacation that next week and said when she got back she would plan something. We looked him up on Facebook and he looked cute, and I left that day excited about the possibility.
Fast forward to the night of March 9th. It was later in the evening and I decided to get on Match to see if anyone new had recently joined. My subscription was expiring at the end of the month and I had decided I was not going to renew it. I logged on and started to scroll down when a photo caught my eye. It was of this very cute guy in an Iowa Hawkeye shirt. (See his actual photo below) That scored points with me right there, since I am a big Iowa Hawkeye fan and alumni. I clicked on his photo to read more about him and looked through his photos. I was instantly attracted to him and even though today I can’t recall what he wrote in his profile, something inside me decided to take a leap of faith and give him a “wink”. For those of you who are not familiar with Match, when you see someone you are interested in you “wink” at them in hopes they wink back at you or better yet contact you. Hitting the button to wink at someone was always a little risky. What if they didn’t wink back? What if they viewed your profile and had no interest? It was hard putting yourself out there with the idea that you may be rejected.
(Brody’s profile picture from Match. Still one of my favorite photos of him.)
I winked and moments later, I got a wink back. I had butterflies in my stomach. I was excited but not sure what to do next. Do I reach out and message him? Wait for him to message me? Before I could decide, there was already a message in my inbox from him. We started talking back and forth that night. He asked if I wanted to set up a time to talk on the phone tomorrow night, he said he had his girls that night and was getting them ready to go to bed. I agreed to setting up a time to talk the following night and we exchanged numbers. We said goodnight and I felt so much excitement just from our short conversation. I logged out of Match, took my dogs out and went to bed. The next morning I got up and logged back into Match to re-read out messages from the previous night. I saw that he had messaged me back after I had logged out asking if I wanted to talk after his girls went to bed. I automatically felt terrible that I had missed out on this opportunity to talk to him. Since I had his number, I decided to text him to explain that I did not see his message but I still looked forward to talking to him that night. Well, that text message turned into several message that day going back and forth.
During those text messages we started to get to know each other, one of the questions we asked was what he did for a living. He said he was a personal trainer. When I heard this, it made me think. He is a personal trainer, who is recently divorced with two girls; could this be the same person that my hair stylist wanted to set me up with? What are the chances? So, I asked him if he knew my friend Sara, and sure enough, it was him. He was actually with her husband as he was texting me. What were the odds! We kept talking that day over text and had our first phone conversation that night. The conversation flowed as if we had known each other for years.
Two days later we met in person and what can I say, the rest is history! We were inseparable from that moment on. Brody proposed in November of 2017 and we were married in August 25, 2018. Brody still talks about how he was only on Match for six days before he met me. We both had almost given up on love, but thank goodness, we decided to take a chance, sign up for Match.com and open up our hearts again. I will always thank God for giving me the courage to wink at him that day and for bringing the most amazing man and his two girls into my life. When you get to a certain age, you can start to give up hope that the fairytale maybe wasn’t supposed to happen for you. One of my favorite movies is “Under the Tuscan Sun”, staring Diane Lane. At the end of the movie, her character says something that has stuck with me through our whole journey together. “Unthinkably good things can happen even late in the game. It’s such a surprise.” I could not agree with her more!
Cheers to amazing surprises!
Photographs by Laura Beekmann Photography & Films